Like a Boy but Not a Boy: Navigating Life, Mental Health, and Parenthood Outside the Gender Binary
Inquisitive and expansive, Like a Boy but Not a Boy exploresauthor andrea bennett's experiences with gender expectations, beinga non-binary parent, and the sometimes funny and sometimesdifficult task of living in a body. The book's fourteen essays alsodelve incisively into the interconnected themes of mental illness,mortality, creative work, class, and bike mechanics (apparently youcan learn a lot about yourself through truing a wheel).In "Tomboy," andrea articulates what it means to live in a genderin-between space, and why one might be necessary; "37 Jobs 21Houses" interrogates the notion that the key to a better life isworking hard and moving house. And interspersed throughout the bookis "Everyone Is Sober and No One Can Drive," sixteen stories aboutqueer millennials who grew up and came of age in smallcommunities.With the same poignant spirit as Ivan Coyote's Tomboy SurvivalGuide, Like a Boy but Not a Boy addresses the struggle to findacceptance, and to accept oneself; and how one can find one's placewhile learning to make space for others. The book also wonders itmeans to be an atheist and search for faith that everything will beokay; what it means to learn how to love life even as you obsessover its brevity; and how to give birth, to bring new life, at whatfeels like the end of the world.With thoughtfulness and acute observation, andrea bennett revealintimate truths about the human experience, whether one is outsidethe gender binary or not.