Love Her Well: 10 Ways to Find Joy and Connection with Your Teenage Daughter

December 2, 2020
Love Her Well: 10 Ways to Find Joy and Connection with Your Teenage Daughter

Moms are eager for tips and wisdom to help them buildstrong relationships with their daughters, and KariKampakis's Love Her Well givesthem ten practical ways to do so, not by changing their daughtersbut by changing their own thoughts, actions, andmind-set.For many women, having a baby girl is a dream come true. Yet asgirls grow up, the narrative of innocence and joy changes to gloomand doom as moms are told, "Just wait until she's a teenager!" andhanded a disheartening script that treats a teenage girl's finalyears at home as solely a season to survive.Author and blogger Kari Kampakis suggests it's time to changethe narrative and mind-set that lead moms to parent teen girls witha spirit of defeat, not strength. By improving the foundation,habits, and dynamics of the relationship, mothers can connect withtheir teen daughters and earn a voice in their lives that allowsmoms to offer guidance, love, wisdom, and emotional support.As a mom of four daughters (three of whom are teenagers), Karihas learned the hard way that as girls grow up, mothers must growup too. In Love Her Well, Kari shares ten ways that moms can betterconnect with their daughters in a challenging season,including:choosing their words and timing carefully,listening and empathizing with her teen's world,seeing the good and loving her for who she is,taking care of themselves and having a support system, andmore.This book isn't a guide to help mothers "fix" their daughters ormake them behave. Rather, it's about a mom's journey, doing theheart work and legwork necessary to love a teenager while stillbeing a strong, steady parent. Kari explores how every relationshipconsists of two imperfect sinners, and teenagers gain more respectfor their parents when they admit (and learn from) their mistakes,apologize, listen, give grace, and try to understand their teens'point of view. Yes, teenagers need rules and consequences, butwithout a connected relationship, parents may never gain asignificant voice in their lives or be a safe place they long toreturn to.By admitting her personal failures and prideful mistakes thathave hurt her relationships with her teenage daughters, Kari givesmothers hope and reminds them all things are possible through God.By leaning on him, mothers gain the wisdom, guidance, protection,and clarity they need to grow strong relationships with theirdaughters at every age, especially during the critical teenyears.